The following tips on “HOW THE WIFE SHOULD TREAT HER HUSBAND”
were extracted from twitter; they were posted by Yadomah Bukar [ @Yadomah ]. They are succinct/self-explanatory tips and I believe they are useful/essential.
The tips are as follows:
•It’s very clear that men have a need for respect or reverence & women have a need for love. RESPECT HIM.
•The wife should tell her husband: “I believe in you, I thank you for loving me and the children”.
•If you’re a good wife to your Husband and treat him right, he would cherish you, love you and nurture you in return.
•Be pleasant. Never be rude to your husband, family and friends. Be warm, kind, positive understanding & friendly.
•Work to be pleasant toward your husband. Don’t be one of those people who make everyone around feel bad just because they have had a hard day.
•Welcome your husband with a smile when he comes home instead of an sour face. A good wife honours her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance.
•Listen to him talk about his day especially if it was a difficult one.
•If you don’t like how your partner treats you, take a minute to notice how you treat your partner & correct your ways.
•Always speak in a loving way and refrain from speaking in a harsh manner. A good wife will treat her man with respect in front of others and at home. Communication is the key to a good and solid marriage.
•A good wife respects her man, she never chooses to belittle, strike,humiliate or harm him in private/public.
•Do not hide things from your husband or keep secrets after marriage. Be honest to him. Find time to sit and talk with your husband on a daily basis even if it is for only half an hour.
•If you let things bottle up & feel that you can’t share them with your husband, then your marriage is in trouble.
•Be a good listener when your husband is talking. You may have a dozen important things to tell him but allow him to talk first.
•Don’t greet him with complaints and problems the moment he comes back from work. Good Communication also helps to build trust and strengthen your relationship.
•After marriage, the wife and husband are a team or partners. Do not take any major decisions about the family without consulting with your husband.
•Fight/Problems may happen, but do not let the world know about it rather solve it between yourselves. The fight you had last week over shopping or whatever, is over and done with.
•Stop rehearsing old stuffs/fights and reminding him of his faults. Do not resort to name calling, hitting, spitting, breaking dishes or anything else when you lose your temper. He might start to fall out of love.
•A good wife loves her hubby through his successes & failures & provides reassurance when he’s feeling down. SUPPORT is necessary: A husband expects his wife’s support and understanding especially in times of troubles.
•A wife is a nurturer and an equal partner in the marriage. Support your husband in all stages of his career and life. Do not belittle your man or hurt his ego. It is often heard, a saying that “a wife can make a man or break a man”.
•There’s no quicker way to build resentment in your man than to criticize/belittle him especially in front of others. Be proud of him on his accomplishments and genuinely complement him.
•When you don’t agree with him, respectfully let him know you don’t agree. Do not nag: No man would like a nagging wife. If you want to get your own way ask him nicely.
•Many wives think that the only way to get her husband to do things is by nagging. VERY WRONG! The truth is that your nagging can create unwanted rift or can make things worse between the two of you.
•Your husband is a grown man with his own thoughts and desires. Just because you think he should be doing something particular doesn’t mean he has to do it.
•Give him his space: As a wife you need to understand that your husband has a life other than you also. Don’t expect his undivided attention.
•Don’t stop him if he wants to go out and hang out with his friends sometimes or engage in a hobby or sport that he likes. An interfering wife can sometimes be too irritating.
•Keep him happy in Bed: Errrrrrrrm no too much talk on this. Men like surprises too. Plan a surprise birthday or plan a special night.
•Your surprises do not have to be elaborate, it can be as simple as making him his favourite snack or any of his favourite dishes once in a while.
•Express your love and appreciation often! Men likes praises and appreciation. Men like to hear the words ‘I love you’. Join him in activities that he’s interested in even though you would have preferred to do something else.
•Give him a thoughtful gift once in a while. Make it a point never to forget the special days in his life.
•Pamper him very often, especially when he is at home. You can even cook for him or give him a good massage.
•Making him dependent on you by doing his chores when he is at home is not a bad idea.
•Let him miss you and think about you when you are not around. Your gestures won’t go unnoticed & it may even inspire him to do something nice for you.
•A good wife would be honest, loyal and dedicated to her husband. Marriage is a lifelong commitment.
•Take special care about your appearance, every day. •Some women feel that once they are married why should they dress up or take care of their appearance(s)? WRONG! A man likes his wife to smell good. Prepare the House: Maintain a clean house all the time.
•Be wise with money and take all the responsibilities of a wife seriously without complaining.
•Do you want a Good Husband who would love and cherish you? Then treat him exactly the way you want him to treat you. If you want your Husband to treat you like a Queen, you should treat him like a King.
•In this modern world where most Wives also work, the above advice may not be fully practical but efforts should/can be made to make it practicable.
•If you are working, you may keep a maid for doing the household chores of cooking, cleaning etc.
•If you do all these, you can expect your husband to behave with you in the same manner and also respect you more for your support and thoughtfulness.
I have some advice for Men who were overjoyed seeing this Hub. Marriage is a two sided relationship, you have to play your role too in a perfect manner if you expect your wife to be an ideal one.
Compiled by Gentle_Mad_man – @wordsworthgwary